This Bangladeshi bride chose her big day to break stereotypes

Brides often prepare well in advance before their big day indulging in a set of beauty and skin care regimes wanting to look their prettiest along with all the planning and preparations for the wedding.

Being one of the most memorable days of your life and with all eyes on you, you will want to look absolutely flawless. But for Tasnim Jara, a bride from Bangladesh, wearing a weighty dress, tons of make-up and mounds of jewellery do not at all represent the agency of a woman.

She wore her grandmother's cotton saree for her wedding with no jewellery and zero makeup breaking the long continuing tradition. Jara may not look like other brides you've seen before. But her post on Fabebook last week has definately gone viral.

In her post, Jara explained why she chose to break from tradition on her wedding reception. Her post has been shared nearly 30,000 times.

"I was troubled by the singular image of a bride that our society has - with tons of makeup, a weighty dress and mounds of jewellery weighing her down," Jara wrote on Facebook.

"Don't be fooled, this lavish image of a bride does not represent the financial well-being or agency of a woman in the family. This sometimes rather happens against their will."

"Society has decided that if we really have to spend money on women, we spend it...for a cause that won't do them any good", she wrote.

Jara, who is the President of Aroggo, a healthcare start-up which works to fund the medical treatment of impoverished patients in Bangladesh, explains brides often feel pressured to spend money on makeup artists, heavy jewellery and elaborate outfits that will only be worn once. 

Jara points out she's not against a bride dressing up, provided it's her own choice. "Don't get me wrong, if a girl wants to use make-up, jewellery and expensive clothes for herself, I am all in for that. But it is a problem when she loses her agency in deciding what she would like to wear on her wedding day," she clarifies on Facebook.

​In her post, Jara admits she faced resistance from some members of her family for her choice. But, she adds, her husband Khaled supported her "unconditionally."

Read Tasnim Jara's entire Facebook post below:

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Since August 9, Ms Jara's Facebook post has been shared over 29,000 times and has collected over 114,000 reactions.